Hope, ambivalence and fear are common for many people embarking on an intervention. An intervention can sometimes be quite stressful. Remember the fundamentals.

First of all, no one can predict with certainty how someone will react. Acceptance, anger, relief, hope, confusion are all usually present to some degree, and sooner or later each will emerge. How each will manifest prior, during and following intervention day varies considerably.

Second, reduce your investment in the outcome of what occurs on “intervention day.” Remember that intervention day is only one part of the process. Intervention truly starts with the first inquiry for help and lasts well beyond intervention day.

Family and friends continue to learn and change for months and years. It is this knowledge and change that, in the long run, not only help family and friends maintain perspective and resolve, but may also help the person to take the matter seriously and to focus on accepting help.

Finally, the intervention is always done with love and respect. And no matter what happens on intervention day, it will most certainly get the person’s attention. If the person refuses to do what is requested, he/she nearly always changes for the better in some way, usually by accepting some form of help later: either later that same day, the next day, the next week, or the next month or two.

In short, it will never be business as usual again for anyone